Options?

Someone writes to Carolyn Hax today:

Hi Carolyn, You write "You can't have a baby your spouse doesn't want . . . the veto means you have to decide whether you're going to do this spousally-vetoed thing, or leave the marriage."

So if a woman in a marriage gets pregnant accidentally and the husband doesn't want the child, her only options are having an abortion, giving the baby up for adoption, or getting a divorce? Is this actually what you mean? If so, I am shocked you would hold such an uncompromising view.

I'm having trouble understanding what the writer thinks is a fourth option. Sure, if the husband changes his mind, that's one thing, but if he really doesn't want a baby, he's going to leave. Or be a bastard of a father.

(Carolyn asks if the wife should force the husband to stay in the marriage at gun-point... Yeah. That would work.)