Oedipus' relationship with his mother

In a review of "Hide/Seek: Difference and Desire in American Portraiture", Blake Gopnik writes:

For a queer man who's lived through McCarthy's Lavender Scare, when more gays than leftists lost jobs, gazing at your fresh-faced object of desire was as perilous as when Oedipus looked wrong at his mother.

Point taken.

But although Freud took the myth and twisted it for his own purposes, it should be remembered that the tragedy wasn't the Oedipus wanted to marry (and did) his mother, it was that the woman he married turned out to be his mother. Which is to say, Oedipus didn't suffer from his eponymous complex.